We Lie Best When We Lie To Ourselves

The title is a thought I had a few years ago.

It’s amazing the lies I’ve told myself over the years. Lies I believed despite the facts reality consistently put in front of me. I’d be willing to bet you’ve told yourself a few whoppers over the years as well.

I got to thinking about this on the drive back from the hubby’s place. I want to issue a challenge. Try this – tell yourself the absolute truth once a day every day in November. You don’t have to DO anything different or tell anyone your truths.  Perhaps jotting them down though would be a good idea, but certainly, that’s not a mandatory part of the challenge. Nope, I simply want you to muster up the courage to tell yourself the truth.

For example:

  • I really don’t care how much I weigh.
  • I’m only doing this because I want him / her / them to like / accept me.
  • My mother / father really is abusive.
  • I feel better when I…
  • I’m sad.
  • I’m so freakin’ happy.
  • I don’t want to be friends with him / her / them anymore.
  • I would much rather be fishing.
  • I don’t like the way my (insert person or thing here) behaves.
  • I’d love to start my own business for real.
  • It really is only about the sex.
  • I really want that.
  • I’m afraid.
  • I am worthy no matter what he / she / they say
  • I don’t want to go to my / his / her parent’s place for the holidays this year.
  • Sometimes, I really wish – I didn’t have kids / I would have had kids.
  • I drink too much when I’m in these situations.
  • I like taking naps.

And so on. No judgement, no critique, no “oh but I shouldn’t feel this way / think like that…”  Just the truth.

Don’t know if it’ll set you free as “they” say, but I know that once I started telling my own truths, I couldn’t help but change for my good. I stopped so many of the negative behaviors that had caused me grief over the years. I came to accept all of me, as I was (as I am, as I continue to grow into being). I’m betting the same thing can happen for you. But it starts with being able to tell yourself the truth.

What have you got to lose?

Love you,

Dana

One thought on “We Lie Best When We Lie To Ourselves

  1. Yes!! Until we really admit what we’re feeling/thinking, we’re stuck in a negative cycle in which we’re just denying our real feelings/thoughts & can’t ever get over them or move on . . . or learn to accept that they’re actually perfectly ok. One of my biggest life lessons as an adult is that emotions themselves are never wrong. It’s what we do with them that matters.

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